Get overyour partner’spast.
Dr. Yuri's retroactive jealousy course, now in an app: short lessons, a 12-stage path and tools for the moment the urge to ask takes over.
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Sound familiar?
Your partner's past is taking over your present.
- You already know the answer, but you ask again.
- You open the ex's profile even knowing you'll feel worse.
- Images of their past play in your head like a movie.
- A trip, a place or a name ruins a good evening.
- You compare yourself with someone who isn't even in your lives anymore.
- You've thought about breaking up just to make the pain stop.
If you recognized yourself in two or more, it isn't a lack of love or a flaw in your character. It's a cycle, and cycles can be learned and unlearned.
The question brings relief for a few minutes and charges you for the rest of the day.
You ask, you get the answer, you feel relief, and the next day the doubt comes back with a new question. What makes you ill isn't the jealousy: it's what you do to quiet it. That's why it doesn't go away on its own, and why there is a way out.
The cycle that keeps jealousy standing
Trigger
Something brings up their past.
A name on the screen, an old photo, a trip mentioned over dinner. The body reacts before any thought: a tight chest, attention locked.
Relief
Ask, check, compare.
The answer arrives and the anxiety drops for a few minutes. The mind just learned that doubt requires reassurance.
Return
The doubt comes back, bigger.
Each answer becomes raw material for the next question. Checking doesn't build certainty: it erodes the certainty you had.
How it works
An app for the moment the movie starts.
Watch the day's lesson.
Dr. Yuri's course in short parts, along the path of 12 stages. At some points the video pauses and suggests the practice for that moment.
Ride out the urge, without feeding it.
Urge to ask or to open the profile? The Campfire starts at 30 seconds. You watch the urge rise and pass.
Remember what you feel.
When your mind only shows the past, the Trump Card brings back your best memory together, written on a good day.
See what's changing.
Fewer questions, fewer checks, shorter crises. Your numbers, compared only with you.
The path
It doesn't go in a straight line. And that's fine.
Twelve stages, from Connection to Well-being. Some days you move forward, some days you stall, some days you slip back. The app shows the real path, not an ideal one.
Launching in English
Before Me is coming to English speakers.
The app is launching first in Portuguese, in Brazil. The English version will have the app in English and Dr. Yuri's lessons, recorded in Portuguese, with English subtitles. Leave your name and we'll let you know when it's ready.
Who leads it
Dr. Yuri Busin
Psychologist, MSc and PhD in Behavioral Neuroscience from Mackenzie Presbyterian University, creator of the PRO Method and Brazil's leading reference on retroactive jealousy.
- Psychologist, CRP 06/107708 (Brazil)
- MSc and PhD in Behavioral Neuroscience, Mackenzie Presbyterian University
- Postgraduate degrees in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Positive Psychology, PUC-RS
- Creator of the PRO Method, Reinforcement and Objective Psychotherapy
- Founder of Grupo Yuri Busin
- Author of Antes de Mim and the PRO Collection
- Member of Fides, the World Health Organization (WHO) network of health professionals on social media
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The app's content comes from clinical practice: from the consulting room, the team and years treating exactly this problem. It isn't generic self-help.
Understand your jealousy.
Frequently asked questions
What is retroactive jealousy?
It's the distress caused by the romantic or sexual past of the person you love, even when that past doesn't affect your relationship today. It's kept alive by what you do to quiet it: asking, checking, comparing.
Does the app replace therapy?
No. It's a support resource with Dr. Yuri's lessons and practices, and it doesn't replace professional assessment, diagnosis or treatment.
Is it available in English?
Not yet. The app launches first in Portuguese. The English version is in preparation, with the app in English and the lessons with subtitles.
What's free?
The first two stages of the path and the crisis tools. The full path is unlocked with a subscription in the App Store or Google Play.
Where is my data stored?
On your phone. The app opens with Face ID or your passcode, and what you write isn't sent to any server.